Wednesday, November 7, 2007

Becoming A Mother !

7 months ago today, my world changed forever. I delivered my beautiful little girl Jaylin by emergency c section at 6:05 a.m. Under normal circumstances a mother would be so happy to have just had their baby. In my case I was scared to death. Jaylin was born at only 22 weeks and 6 days gestation. I went into pre term labor and had no idea that my life would be changing.

Her chances of survival were only 20-25% which I knew upon arriving at the hospital. However, I imagined that the worse that could possibly happen was that I would be put on hospital bedrest, but will still get to keep my precious child. Unfortunately that was not part of God's plan for me. I will never forget the moment I awoke from surgery and discvored that I was no longer pregnant and my daughter was in the NICU fighting for her life. Though it was a bittersweet moment, I will never forget the Joy and happiness I felt. I couldn't believe I was finally a mother. I couldn't believe that just a few feet away was the baby I had dreamed of and wanted for so very long.

Becoming a mother was the best experience I could have gone through. At that moment I did not know what would become of my motherhood at that time and did not know I would be a mother of an angel. I was a MOTHER. Wow what a feeling. I think about how many women feel on the day their child is born and honestly, its a life changing experience. One I hope to experience again.

I am so grateful. Grateful to God for finally allowing me to give birth to my miracle baby. Grateful that I was able to see her move and see her breath. Grateful that I was able to feel her. I am grateful to have held her hand and felt her grasp it oh so tightly.

Becoming a mother is a gift I am so grateful to my daughter for. She taught me what it meant to love someone so much unconditionally under any circumstances. Becoming a mother allows you the opportunity to say there is someone on this earth who soley relies on you for LOVE. Through Jaylin's pain and suffering the one thing I could offer her was LOVE. The one thing she needed the most even in her time of suffering.

Becoming a Mother. Becoming a mothe also teaches you some of the most valuable lessons. It teaches you that as parents we can't always do whats in our best interest. Many parents are guilty of making decisions for their children that are not necessarily in the best interest of the children but what we may think is best. Honestly we have to think about what they would want. Though children are small and vulnerable, the most honest creatures of earth.

For me becoming a monther 7 months ago today, taught me that very same thing. I learned that
being a mother means doing what was best for my daughter. At that time what was best for her was to be given a chance. A chance to survive, a chance to fight for her life. A chance to feel the love that her mommy and daddy had for her. A chance for her to see a lifetimes worth of love and support from family and friends. A chance to finally feel the bond and connection with her mommy that she felt in the womb. A chance to her her mommy say her name and feel the reaction her mommy had to seeing her respond to this.

Becoming a mother has been a life changing experience and Jaylin, mommy thanks you so much for coming into my life and changing it forever. I LOVE YOU SO MUCH JAYLIN MY LOVE.


mrsmuelly said...

Becoming a mother truly is a life changing experience - no matter the circumstances. My thoughts are with you guys today...and I know Jaylin is watching over you.

Ann said...

Thank you so much for allowing us to ready your blog. Your strength gives me strength. I am thinking of you today and praying for you, Jaylin and the most recent baby.

Love to you!